Today marks 9 years since John and I had our first date. It is hard to believe how fast the past 9 years have flown by. It feels like just a few months ago that we were sitting down for our first date, totally nervous, wondering if it would turn into a second date, wondering if I should kiss him goodnight and every other nervous thought you get while dating.
Our first date was a typical first date….i quess. We met for drinks and appetizers at a local restaurant and ended up talking for a while. We had a good enough time that we scheduled a second date and a third and all of a sudden it has been 9 years.
Recently I was thinking back to the times when we were dating. I remember walking through Target holding hands and having a couple remark at how cute we were and how we must be dating because married people just didn’t do that. I remember thinking why in the world don’t married people hold hands? Why wouldn’t you want to be as close to your spouse as you could be? I remember telling myself that we were never going to be that couple. We were never going to stop holding hands…….
Well fast forward 9 years and guess what we are that couple. UGH!!! We have turned into what I never thought would happen. We walk through Costco and are 10 feet away making sure we get everything, we have our phones out at dinner and are catching up on social media instead of talking, we sit and watch tv 5 feet apart and so many other things we never did while we were dating. I am not saying we are not fully madly completely in love its just we forgot how to date each other.
We have been together for 9 years and it is easy. We know each others likes and dislikes, we know what buttons to push and which ones not to, we are comfortable in our sweats and grungy t-shirts next to each other. We are just well comfortable, in love but comfortable.
But what about holding hands, grabbing a kiss just because you can, snuggling up to watch tv together, and going on real dates?? Each of these moments happen still but not like they used to. Don’t get me wrong there is something truly amazing about being so comfortable together that you don’t have to say a word your spouse just knows what you are thinking and being so comfortable together that you can curl up in sweats and not worry that your hair is on top of your head.
Why can’t we have both? Why can’t we have the comfort of knowing each other and the tingly warmth of dating at the same time?
So I am dating my Husband again. I am making it a point of putting away my cell phone at dinner, I am holding his hand every chance I get, I am reaching over and putting my hand on his leg just because I can, I am sneaking kisses every chance I get because I can, and most of all I am loving each moment we have together.